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Getting my DH on Board

August 10th, 2008 at 06:33 am

I have tried for ever to get my DH to help me with the finances, but it just does not seem to be his thing.

Pre starting my "Living Beneath our Means and Loving it Journey",my DH would use his credit card for lunch every day. Since I have started us on this journey, he has only used it a handful of times.......so he is NOT fighting me. He just does not seem to want to live it and breath it, with me.....LOL....But then on the other hand maybe I should not live it and breath it quite so much. lol

BUT I think I have found a trick that has brought him on board. A few weeks ago I started putting up on the fridge a running tally of where I was spending his weekly check. This weeks Looked like this

$687 Week of 8-1
-87 snowmobile account
$600 left
-30 DH's allowance
-25 Wife lunch with sis
$545 left
-21 wiper blades little truck
-38 little truck gas
111 walmart groc + round up
-20 cash 10 adams birthday
-42 big truck gas +ice
$258 left
-10 adj ( not sure what happen Smile
$248 left
-20 lake cruise tickets
-25 stevia order
$203 left
- 60 grand daughter school clothes
-17 wife walkman
-25 deer tag
$101 left
-17 grand daughter toy/flowers for wife
$ 86 left

This system has brought him on board...I just heard him the other day talking to DSIL about how he and DD might want to do it. The down side to this is he sometimes now........questions one of my expenditure. lol

11 Responses to “Getting my DH on Board”

  1. Broken Arrow Says:

    Could he perhaps use cash instead?

    Then, it's not asking him to stop buying lunch. Rather, it'll make things easier to track the cash flow.

  2. gamecock43 Says:

    OMG that sounds great! I think that might be the ticket for me to get my fiance aware of his spending! Wow- great idea! I need to tweak it a bit as we still have seperate finances, but this is a great idea!

  3. cheshirecat Says:

    Broken arrow
    Sorry I must have confused you....he does not buy lunch anymore he had me hide his CC. He does wonderful at watching what we spend with me.......I just wanted him to be more on board on exactly where we were in our spending, saving ect.

  4. Petunia Says:

    Ooh. . . perhaps we need a "getting our DHs on board" support group. . . we can discuss strategies, LOL. I like this! It doesn't require much from a DH but looking at the fridge (not a painful task) but raises his awareness. Way to go, Cheshire Cat!

    Every so often DH will question something now (see my hot dog bun French toast entry) and - I'm glad! Something is better than nothing!

  5. cheshirecat Says:

    I did not even say anything when I put it there but being he opens the fridge a lot Smile he eventually noticed and asked about it. and I said I thought you might want to know where I spend your money. Smile

  6. Broken Arrow Says:

    Oh! My bad. Big Grin

    I used to know a guy who used that trick (yes, he was the "money person" in that household) and that worked out great for them. Hope it works for you guys too.

  7. daybyday Says:

    What a great idea!

  8. momsents Says:

    Oh, I love the idea - my DH is a Numbers Man at work, and wants nothing to do with balance sheets upon his return home. If it is published and posted, there isn't any room for assumptions on his part.

    And I am doing better about discussing things - like how to best manage the resources when there seems to be a lot pending. I do lack patience to tackle the things at a snail's pace, but I am managing.

  9. Personal Finance Student Says:

    I love this idea! Thanks for sharing.

  10. Amber Says:

    Great idea

  11. boomeyers Says:

    I'll join the club! Mine might need a little furthur help though, like being tied up and forced to listen! Smile

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