I have tried for ever to get my DH to help me with the finances, but it just does not seem to be his thing.
Pre starting my "Living Beneath our Means and Loving it Journey",my DH would use his credit card for lunch every day. Since I have started us on this journey, he has only used it a handful of times.......so he is NOT fighting me. He just does not seem to want to live it and breath it, with me.....LOL....But then on the other hand maybe I should not live it and breath it quite so much. lol
BUT I think I have found a trick that has brought him on board. A few weeks ago I started putting up on the fridge a running tally of where I was spending his weekly check. This weeks Looked like this
$687 Week of 8-1
-87 snowmobile account
$600 left
-30 DH's allowance
-25 Wife lunch with sis
$545 left
-21 wiper blades little truck
-38 little truck gas
111 walmart groc + round up
-20 cash 10 adams birthday
-42 big truck gas +ice
$258 left
-10 adj ( not sure what happen
$248 left
-20 lake cruise tickets
-25 stevia order
$203 left
- 60 grand daughter school clothes
-17 wife walkman
-25 deer tag
$101 left
-17 grand daughter toy/flowers for wife
$ 86 left
This system has brought him on board...I just heard him the other day talking to DSIL about how he and DD might want to do it. The down side to this is he sometimes now........questions one of my expenditure. lol
Getting my DH on Board
August 10th, 2008 at 02:33 pm
August 10th, 2008 at 02:34 pm 1218375281
Then, it's not asking him to stop buying lunch. Rather, it'll make things easier to track the cash flow.
August 10th, 2008 at 02:36 pm 1218375416
August 10th, 2008 at 02:38 pm 1218375519
Sorry I must have confused you....he does not buy lunch anymore he had me hide his CC. He does wonderful at watching what we spend with me.......I just wanted him to be more on board on exactly where we were in our spending, saving ect.
August 10th, 2008 at 02:38 pm 1218375535
Every so often DH will question something now (see my hot dog bun French toast entry) and - I'm glad! Something is better than nothing!
August 10th, 2008 at 02:43 pm 1218375816
August 10th, 2008 at 10:20 pm 1218403223
I used to know a guy who used that trick (yes, he was the "money person" in that household) and that worked out great for them. Hope it works for you guys too.
August 11th, 2008 at 12:55 am 1218412503
August 11th, 2008 at 01:23 am 1218414186
Oh, I love the idea - my DH is a Numbers Man at work, and wants nothing to do with balance sheets upon his return home. If it is published and posted, there isn't any room for assumptions on his part.
And I am doing better about discussing things - like how to best manage the resources when there seems to be a lot pending. I do lack patience to tackle the things at a snail's pace, but I am managing.
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